Move from feeling insecure and out of control in your relationship to regaining a sense of calm, confidence and composure without having to leave your partner so that you can finally get the love you need
How Does This Sound?
Feel Safe and Loved in Your Relationship
End insecure relationship patterns that keep you stuck in distressing relationship experiences without having to leave your current relationship unless you choose to do so
Make Better Choices That Get You What You Want
Learn how to spot and choose people that genuinely care about you, understand you and want to have an amazing and close relationship with you so that you can finally experience the deep intimacy you’ve always longed for
Be the Confident and Happy Person You Know You Can Be
Have a nurturing connection in your life that helps you feel good about yourself, understand your struggles, feelings, wants and needs so you can finally solve your problems once and for all
Sounds good? Great! You’re in the perfect place!
You’re Ready to CONNECT to a New Way of Loving and Living!
You’re sick of wasting time being unhappy and feeling insecure, anxious or jealous when you should be enjoying your relationship – it’s TIME for you to develop a calm mind and an inner strength that grounds you so you can safely enjoy a ride with the butterflies in your stomach.
You cannot bear another day of feeling unwanted, unloved, empty, disconnected and alone – you’re SO READY to grow and nurture the version of you that feels safe, free, connected, wanted, loved and secure.
You no longer want your past traumas infect your life and wreck your current relationships – INSTEAD you want to resolve and liberate yourself from them so you can finally live freely without care and inhibition!
You are so very done with all the bad relationships in your life that drain you and only leave you feeling worse about yourself – INSTEAD you want to learn how to let in the good ones that want to see you, understand you and love you how you need to be loved.
You are done with doing it all by yourself, going it alone and living without any support in your life – You can see now that you’re ready to thrive in life and that means saying YES to being supported by safe and caring people.
Because you CAN get the love you need! And I’m living proof of it …
So Let Me Tell You a Bit About My Journey …
My dream relationships always turned out to be relationship nightmares.
Even though I had always craved deep connections, intimacy and love, I kept finding myself in relationships with emotionally unavailable and unsafe people ensuring I could never get the attention, care and love that I wanted.
At the beginning of each relationship I’d feel really distressed, anxious and insecure. I didn’t feel like my new partner wanted me as much as I wanted them, they were critical, created disconnection by fighting or I caught them lying to me.
And still, I’d fight really hard to save and fix the relationship at great cost to myself: I’d completely lose myself, give up on my interests, goals and friends and become consumed with trying to please my partner in an attempt to earn their love. (Spoiler alert: it never worked. You simply can’t make someone love you. Not really.)
My life became about them while I became invisible.
I also felt completely desperate and out of control because I kept trying to control something that was outside my zone of control: how someone felt about me so I could feel ok about myself. Because the truth was that I didn’t feel ok about myself. I felt broken, I felt damaged and I felt defeated.
I didn’t want this to be my experience of life.
I didn’t want to accept that I was condemned to feeling alone, invisible and empty. Other people had nice relationships, pretty houses, friends and fun experiences so why couldn’t I? And what was wrong with me that even when I did have friends and nice experiences or a pretty house I still didn’t feel better? Why did nothing feel good?! Just what was wrong with me?
I didn’t leave my failing relationships.
I stayed and lived my life in a disconnected way so that I could endure emotional neglect and abusive behaviours. I simply felt unable to leave because my fear of being alone was too overwhelming.
I was too scared of being alone.
I also didn’t want to admit to myself that I was failing. Staying also meant that I could make my partners the ‘bad guy’ and not address my own issues: the reasons why I was staying. It distracted me from feeling unlovable and damaged by focusing on everything I hated about my partner. I made them the problem to avoid facing my own.
And that is what cost me my youth, a whole lot of fun experiences, opportunities to discover myself and actually experiencing true love, healthy connection and the deep intimacy I so desperately craved.
One day, it hit me – I found the root cause of my distress.
I had always known that there was something wrong but I could never workout what it was. After all, I had received plenty of treatment for depression, anxiety and all kinds of other mental health conditions. But no one ever mentioned codependency or insecure attachment.
It described me and my struggles perfectly and all of a sudden it all made sense.
But I couldn’t find the help I needed. I wasn’t willing to give away my power, subscribe to someone else’s indoctrination program, admit that I couldn’t change, give up on my dreams or demonise my partners and abscond myself of any responsibility.
I knew that I was suffering and I knew that my suffering came from within me. Therefore, I knew that my healing would also have to come from within me.
If the problem was within me, so was the solution.
And so I went on a 6 year quest to figure out how to
- work through my traumas
- unearth the lies of the mind
- learn healthy relationship skills
- reconnect with my sense of self-worth
- liberate myself from codependency
- develop an internal focus and
- update my conditioning
so that I could finally LET IN THE LOVE!!!
Because what always stood in the way of me getting the love I needed and craved was my conditioning with its many, many horrible love blocks.
I dissolved my love blocks and for the first time ever I feel complete, loved and secure.
As a result of going through my transformation experience, it is now easy for me to allow someone to love me. I even became an expert at spotting people who can and will love me because I finally know how it all works and how to do it myself.
If only someone had taught me when I was younger what it means to be a human and how to thrive in love and life, I would have saved myself decades of pain and suffering. I struggled through my confusions and misunderstandings by believing the lies of the mind that I share with so many others including you.
And so, it is my duty, my calling and my privilege to help you end your suffering too so that you can finally feel safe and worthy enough to allow yourself to get the love you need. It is your birthright after all!
Basically what I am saying to you is that now it’s your turn.
I am here to help you move from insecure to secure, from disconnected to connected, from empty to fulfilled and from bored to alive.
I am no more special than you are. I don’t have any superhuman skills and while I had to figure it out the hard way, you don’t have to because you’ve got me.
If you could just read a book, fill out a few exercises and be done with it, I’d write it for you.
But this is something that requires connection.
It requires you and me to work together to create a healthy connection you can internalise and then recreate with other people.
It’s ok to need some care, nurturance and guidance. I am here to give it to you.
You are ready. Don’t waste another day suffering alone. Let’s do this together!
With Love, Marlena
I Believe in Honesty and Openness …
… so let me share how this transformation has changed my life
There's Trust and True Intimacy in My Relationship
I am happy and settled in my relationship. We have fun and both feel safe and loved. The drama has gone and so have the trust issues – I never thought I’d see the day!
I'm Feeling Emotionally Satisfied and Fulfilled
I know how I feel, what I want and what I need and no longer feel ashamed or guilty for it. Best of all, I have learned to ask for what I want and guess what? … I usually get it!!!
I Have Freedom from Self-Scrutiny and Self-Doubt
Giving myself permission to do things my way has helped me embrace my authentic self and liberated me from my inner critic – ultimate freedom, ultimate fun, ultimate bliss!
I'm Surrounded by Caring and Loving People
I now have kind, supportive and genuinely caring people in my life who want me and choose me for who I am and not for what I can do for them.
I'm Finally Who I Always Wanted to Be
My biggest fear has always been that I’d damage my children. Now I can confidently say that I’m a healthy role model for my healthy, happy, secure children who thrive in our family.
I Finally Have Fun, Adventure and Success in My Life
No longer burdened by unresolved trauma, love blocks and fear-based conditioning, I engage in life, say yes to cool opportunities, have incredible experiences and enjoy success.
All of this is possible for you too!!!
I literally spent most of my adult life trying to figure out what went wrong – why, as a relatively smart and competent guy, was my life constantly falling apart? Why was I always losing the things which meant the most to me?
The short answer – was relationships. How I understood, operated in, experienced, and managed all of my relationships (intimate, work, friends, family, kids) – was the cause of *all* of my problems. Of course – the most important relationship is the one with myself.
After years of trying to work it out, looking everywhere for answers, whilst all the time making the same mistakes, it took me hitting rock bottom – to finally accept that I needed help. I wasn’t going to find the answers on my own. I was sensible enough to recognise that it wasn’t just help I needed, but professional help, from a person who was trained, experienced and skillful in the area I needed help in.
Marlena was the first person I have met (and I have worked with and learned from many many people) – who has successfully worked through the same issues that I was dealing with, had figured it out, and learned how to ‘teach’ the information in a way that is spot on for me. But most importantly, Marlena has acquired the experience and skills to work with people very effectively. […]
I discovered a whole new world – a world where my old thinking and choices and actions made complete sense. Where I learned where my behaviours came from, what caused them.
Most importantly, I found a person I could trust. I trusted Marlena’s information – about what is ok and what is not. About what is functional and what is not. What ought to be acceptable and what not. Where the problems really came from, as opposed to where they looked like they came from. I realised I didn’t know those things! It was like an epiphany. Everything started falling into place. And things changed quickly for me.
I’m an independent person. I don’t like to be ‘told’. I like to explore, learn, reflect – at my own pace. Marlena’s Codependency Recovery Programme is perfect for me. It allows me to learn and understand – about the true root cause of my relationship problems. The membership group is a place where we can ask questions openly, and receive trusted responses from Marlena. I can work as fast or as slow as I like.
But the most important part for me – is that is was the help I was looking for. I simply can’t recommend it enough. It has been a life-changer for me – perhaps even a life-saver. Come and join me and the others in the group, on this journey – back to life, love, and happiness. The journey home, to your true self.
With love, Paul ❤️👍 x
(Find Paul’s review on the Love with Clarity Facebook page in the review section.)
What You Get from Your 6 Month CONNECT Experience
1 Clinical Assessment session to identify your starting point so we can address the most pressing issues in the most effective and empowering ways possible giving you the biggest transformation in the shortest amount of time
20 private weekly sessions with Marlena lasting 50 minutes each over the duration of the 6 months
20 weekly emails for in-between session support and feedback on insights or practical assignments
20 weekly transformational activities that help you reconnect with yourself so you learn how to feel, understand and regulate your feelings, know what you want, feel confident and skilled in making that happen, learn healthy relationship skills, emotional regulation skills and self-parenting skills
Access to the ‘Codependency, a New Understanding’ course so that you can identify it more easily in your conditioning, directly target it and dissolve it within you with ease and compassion
Access to the ‘Creating Empowering Change’ course so that you can implement your insights and realisations in practical, effective and purposeful ways
Stop hoping that things will simply change – let’s take action and make them happen instead!
Book Your 6 MONTH TRANSFORMATION
& Get 2 FREE follow-up sessions when you PAY IN FULL
What Past Clients Have to Say
“I went through my whole life by myself even though I have always been in relationships. I chose very badly for myself but no matter how hard I tried, I always seemed to end up with yet another horrible man.
Even though I always knew that I should leave I felt that I just couldn’t – I felt too lost and empty. I really didn’t know what to do with myself.
Then I found Marlena through her articles. They spoke to me. Until then, I’d always feared it was just me and that I was crazy. I couldn’t believe I could be helped but she totally did it. Clearly a miracle worker 😉
I decided to leave my abusive relationship after 5 years of struggling and suffering and actually wanted to spend time by myself. I had never wanted that before! And it was magic!
Then I met a new guy and I didn’t have all the crazy stuff going on that happened every time I started a new relationship. I actually got to enjoy the honeymoon phase for once – I’m just so happy and grateful to Marlena. Working with her was a total game changer!“
“I’d been struggling with depression all my life. I always felt like there was no life left in me. Finding myself in one abusive relationship after another didn’t help.
I felt I was going mad on the inside while trying to look perfect on the outside. I was so tired and so exhausted from just going through the motions and doing everything by myself.
I couldn’t go on like this and gave myself one last chance. I decided to work with Marlena even though I was worried about spending the money and committing my time BUT it was the BEST decision I ever made because my life has changed in such amazing ways!
No more deadbeat partners, no more hating on myself, no more boredom or feeling empty. I didn’t think it was possible but there you go … so glad I was wrong!
I even enjoy self-care these days when that is something I never felt I had time for or even wanted to do. I recommend working with Marlena to everyone. It is a truly transformational experience!”
Working with Marlena Is PERFECT FOR YOU If …
You’ve tried many different ways of getting help to resolve your issues but none of them really worked or resulted in lasting change and you’ve lost confidence and hope.
You are ready to learn new ways of treating yourself, responding to yourself and investing in yourself. This is about learning to value yourself so that others will value you too. It has to start with you.
You are ambitious and willing to put in the work and do what it takes. Feeling uncomfortable every now and then is not going to stop you and you are determined to end your misery and give yourself a fresh start in love and life.
You can look at yourself, take personal responsibility and face some truths that may feel uncomfortable at first but will ultimately set you free.
You are not interested in plastering over the cracks. You want to address the core issues and root causes so you can be done with it once and for all.
You want to work with an expert who has personal experience and so truly understands the distress you’re experiencing without judging you or invalidating your feelings.
Professional expertise and competence is important to you and you want someone to support you who knows exactly how to end your suffering and teaches you what you need to know and do to get what you want.
If you are willing and open to get really honest with yourself and do what it takes to improve your experience of life, then you will be successful in your relationships and in life – I’ll make sure of that.
But you have to say YES first. Give yourself what you need.
Here’s My Promise to You
Are You Ready for the BEST Investment You’ll Ever Make?
$5500 in full for 6 months or 6 monthly payments of $1085
NOTE: Marlena ONLY accepts clients who are ready to do the work necessary to make substantial improvements in their lives.
Once Marlena receives your application, she will be in touch with your enrolment information.
This is an investment in yourself: your emotional wellbeing, your mental health, your relationships, your life satisfation, your family, your (future) children, your future and your dreams. It’s time to end the misery and make a fresh start – and this time with healing support, compassionate and empowering guidance and deep care.
Please Complete Your Application Form
By completing your application form you also state that you are ready to:
- Identify your core issues so that you can resolve them once and for all
- Take responsibility for creating the changes you want to see in your life
- Get the love you need and accept the support that is offered to you
- Feel connected and loved in your life
I’d love to hear from you!